Believing and becoming...
Using kind (and powerful) words to create a well and flourishing life.
An acceptance that something exists or is true, especially one without proof.
‘his belief in extraterrestrial life’
Our beliefs create our experiences. They essentially shape our lives. Some are conscious, but many aren't. Becoming conscious of your beliefs is the first step to creating an empowered mindset. What is your belief about how capable/lovable/attractive/intelligent you are? What do you believe about love/money/success? What's your belief about being able to find a new job/relationship/direction in life? Which of your beliefs are true? What evidence do you have for that? Where did these beliefs come from? Are they yours, or a legacy from your family of origin? Do they reflect who you are today, or are they in need of updating?
What we think we become. We know it. We see it played out around us every day. Most of us know someone who is constantly sick/tired/annoyed/complaining. Just being around them feels like a drain. On the flip-side, many of us have the pleasure of having a "lighthouse" in our life. Someone who radiates positivity, and is usually up to something wonderful. Coincidence? I don't believe so. We are consciously creating our realities with the thoughts we choose to think.
You think a thought- which creates a feeling - which causes you to take action (or not) - which then produces a result.
Thought/belief: "I'm too tired to exercise."
Action: no action.. or maybe just slothing in front of Netflix.
Result: a few hours spent doing nothing/watching TV.
Thought/belief: "I feel good when I exercise."
Action: go for a walk/take a yoga class/do 20 squats (possibly even while watching Netflix).
Result: energy and mood boost! The benefits of exercise are many... you know it ;-)
Becoming a Wellness Coach has taught me many things, but the most powerful has been the importance of being conscious of our beliefs. I love this simple exercise, because it shows so clearly that the result/outcome will depend on the original thought/belief. Our beliefs will either energise or deplete us.
When it comes to wellness, beliefs are particularly powerful in helping us to feel our best. The mind-body connection is undeniable, and the work of Dr Joe Dispenza presents incredible possibilities and documented evidence in the field of self-healing. His Impact Theory interview with Tom Bilyeu is a great introduction to his work, and the concept of becoming a conscious creator in our wellbeing and lives. His message: If you want a different reality than the one you currently have... stop thinking in the past.
Planting the seeds you wish to grow.
I've been an advocate of positive affirmations for years, always having a much loved and dog-eared copy of Louise Hay's "You Can Heal Your Life" on hand, wherever we are in the world.
"Every thought you think and every word you speak is an affirmation. All of our self-talk, our internal dialogue, is a stream of affirmations. You’re using affirmations every moment whether you know it or not. You’re affirming and creating your life experiences with every word and thought." Louise Hay.
Having this knowledge ( the keys to the kingdom) I set out to create a list of affirmations as a daily reminder of what I wanted to believe and become. Affirmations are like seeds that you plant in fertile soil (the mind), which with watering (repetition) will bud and bloom. Many of them are taken directly from or inspired by Louise Hay's work, and I want to acknowledge her wonderful legacy here.
Instead of reading my affirmations, I listen to a recording of myself speaking them . There is something pretty magical about hearing your voice speaking kind and encouraging words to yourself. Potent and powerful. You can listen to my audio here, but I really recommend you recording your own voice speaking the affirmations below - or creating your own that resonate with you and what you are wanting to believe and become.
This is who I am becoming...
I'm open to new and wonderful changes.
I show others how to treat me, by treating myself with kindness and respect.
I set clear and loving boundaries with myself and those around me.
I choose to eat healthy food that nourishes me.
I move my body to build strength and flexibility.
It feels amazing to eat well and exercise.
I always have enough energy.
My body is my home, and I take good care of it.
Wellness is the natural state of my body.
I am in perfect health.
I feel at ease within myself. I’m comfortable in my skin.
I’m kind to the woman I see in the mirror.
I focus on empowering thoughts that make me feel good.
I choose to release all fears, doubts and limiting beliefs.
I let go of the need to procrastinate and self-sabotage.
I'm ready to welcome success in every part of my life.
It feels great to be taking action to reach my goals.
I do what I say I will, and my self-esteem increases as I honour my word.
When I feel challenged, I remember to breathe and make space for what is.
I’m learning how to stay grounded, and open to life.
I believe in myself and am capable of handling any emotion.
I choose to see the beauty and wonder within and around me.
I love and appreciate my uniqueness.
I practice speaking up. What’s in my heart, is on my lips.
I shift perspective when I feel myself stuck in negativity.
Every experience is helping me to grow.
I’m an emotional adult, and take responsibility for myself.
I’m present and mindful in all that I do.
My life is balanced with meaningful work and rest.
I'm surrounded by people who I love, and love me.
When I nurture my relationships, my relationships nurture me.
I know what brings me joy and I make time for it.
I'm safe and supported.
I have all the money I need.
As I share my gifts with others, my finances flourish.
I’m grateful for all the wonderful things in my life.
I love and accept myself, just the way I am.
I'm worthy, whole and complete.
Everything is always working out for me.
All is well in my world.
Reading or listening to your affirmations is a wonderful way to start or end the day. It's a part of my morning routine, along with a little stretching, tea and a short meditation on the balcony (before my little and big man wake up). On the days this doesn't happen - I listen to them walking home or to meetings, post-school drop off. If you commute, this can be a great time to listen to your affirmations, or something uplifting. It's easy to mindlessly scroll on social media - but take a moment to ask yourself "is this supporting or sabotaging my wellness?" I can see how listening to your affirmations at bedtime could be amazing too... especially if you struggle with a busy mind before sleep. Drifting off to slumber as you let these positive beliefs sink in... dreamy.
Remember - the affirmations are just the first step. They support the creation of empowered beliefs, that will help to elevate the emotion, to move you into action. Believing, being and doing.
So get busy planting and watering those seeds, and let me know how it goes. It may feel a little strange at first, but be persistent. It took you many years of habitual thinking to get you to this point... change takes time. Set yourself the challenge of listening to or reading your affirmations everyday for 40 days... stay open and be curious. Observe what shifts start to happen.
ps - are you ready to start detoxing from the negative thoughts and beliefs that keep you feeling stressed and stagnant? Are you ready to create some empowered beliefs that will support you to feel well and flourish? Click here to find out more about Wellness Coaching with me.